I’m not sure where to start, so, I’ll go back to The Good, the Bad and the Ugly. I guess the funeral blew me out of the water. I’ve lost sleep over the family and I’m going to say some short things and as usual, get on with my life. I believe that every family has some good in them, if not a lot of good. Mine, has a lot of good. A lot of strong women and men along with their families. I met most of them at the funeral and they are awesome people. I loved seeing photos of my sister’s family, which included photos of most of the family. They brought tears to my eyes. They were good.
I believe that all families have bad in their midst. I don’t think we can get around that. We deal with our bad and try to move on with our lives. One of the sisters that was a true sister of the second family did not come to the funeral. I don’t know why. It’s part of our bad.
Then there’s the ugly. I hope that most families don’t have the ugly parts, but I’d be surprised if most families, if not all families have ugly parts…pedofiles, alcoholics, drug addicts, abusive parents, negligent parents and the list goes on and on. That’s what causes the huge fractures in families and the dysfunction and “in a room with a huge elephant sitting in the middle and no one talking about it” Our family talks about it, but, not everyone is onboard, or denies these things have happened or the ugly tries to intimidate the good. Those that talk about it have their own way to deal with it. We’re all different in our approach to ugliness. I’ve dealt with it, worked on it and still, going back to the funeral, seeing the ugliness, took me right back to childhood.
The Good is in my family and the Good is winning right now. The Good is taking care of their own immediate family to hope they can keep ugliness out of their family. It doesn’t always work, but we’re trying to make a change in the dynamics of our families.
I know this makes little sense to a lot of people reading this, but, I had to get this out of my head, so I can sleep and I can continue. I’ll get to his latest escapades tomorrow.